Do You Mind Unicorn Hunters?
A Unicorn Hunter, by usual terms, is an established couple, usually consisting of a heterosexual man and a bisexual woman, that are seeking out a bisexual woman. This woman would be open to having a relationship with both the man and the woman in the existing relationship. This sort of relationship is also usually defined by the bisexual woman, taking on the rules of the existing couple's relationship, while presumably loving both equally.
So, as a bisexual woman, do I mind Unicorn Hunters? Yes, I do, and here is why;
1. I believe the term “Unicorn Hunter” generally refers to a very specific type of couple or person. A Unicorn Hunter, in my mind, would be someone making the crucial mistake of treating the third person, as just that. This particular type of couple or person doesn’t typically show any regard for the true feelings of the third person in the relationship. Unicorn Hunter shouldn’t be used to classify any couple (as defined previously) seeking out a bisexual woman to join their relationship. Many people live an incredibly healthy and loving lifestyle as a triad.
2. I have no issues with polygamous relationships or a triad lifestyle. However, I find there’s a large difference between those seeking a polygamous relationship, and Unicorn Hunters. Unicorn Hunters are typically looking at this new woman as an “addition” to their already existing relationship, as opposed to realizing that they’re essentially beginning a new relationship as three people. When you’re in a polygamous relationship, it’s important that everyone has a voice and feels that they fit in the relationship, in their way. No one should feel as though they’ve just been wedged into an existing relationship.
3. Rules and boundaries are a perfectly normal part of a polygamous relationship. However, these are all things that ought to be set and discussed equally, by all members of the relationship. Unicorn Hunters are typical of adding a woman into their existing relationship and expecting her to live by existing rules.
4. A large issue with Unicorn Hunters is they often require the third person to divide their love, time, and sexual experiences equally between the two existing partners. This is generally done without offering the same to the third person, or without regard to their feelings. This isn’t natural, and it’s isn’t a fair or healthy expectation.
5. Communication is key in any relationship but, even more so when there are three (or more) people involved. If you’re unwilling to hear the opinions, feelings, and expectations of all parties involved, then it may not be the thing for you. No one should ever feel unheard, and that’s a common theme in relationships with Unicorn Hunters.
Any relationship where someone has been left to feel like an “addition”, isn’t the healthiest. Unicorn Hunters give a poor name to triad relationships. They typically lead the third person into a very unhealthy lifestyle, that’s entirely selfishly motivated. Polygamous relationships can be a beautiful thing when everyone is treated fairly. Everyone’s expectations should feel met, feelings should be validated, and no one should feel pressured or uncomfortable.
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